View Full Version : My Mum has got cancer
03-06-2009, 06:37 PM
I've been posting on cagewarriors now for a while. I found out recently that my Mother has cancer. From what I know she will have an operation in less than a week and I have heard she will be having chemotherapy after.
I am just wondering if anyone out there has any advice that may help? I was thinking maybe in regard to things like nutrition or anything really.
03-06-2009, 06:45 PM
Gutted for you.
chin up mate, and much love to your family.
03-06-2009, 06:47 PM
Hi Jay, my thoughts are with you and your Mum. 1st thing to remember is that cancer is not the end, just a battle.
Three weeks back I lost my mother-in-law to cancer, so I can appreciate what you are going through and don't hesitate to PM me at any time.
There's no wonder supplement unfortunately, but clean healthy eating and lifestyle will be a great help for sure. Nutrition wise a healthy mix of protein, carbs and fats, with a good mix of veg and fruit to get loads of vits and minerals, is going to help. Stay away from sugar, refined food, and all that cr*p, but trust me, sometimes your mum may need something like that depending on how her appetite is affected by the chemo!
Something that is also being researched at the moment is the power of hypnotherapy, which is an avenue to have a look at. It can help keep an upbeat mind, get the subconsious fighting even if the conscious isn't, and help therefore to keep the immune system strong.
I may have lost my mother-in-law, but this week two friends have also just got the all clear, one with breast cancer and one with lung cancer. So you've got everything to be upbeat about. Family being there, being understanding, being a shoulder to cry on, being a hug, being someone to take the flack, really does go a long long way.
As I said, my thoughts are with you.
03-06-2009, 06:47 PM
I wish your family the best, and I hope she goes well with the operation. :)
Really sorry to hear your news.
Main advise I can give is keep positive and be there for your mum. My Mum was diagnosed several years back and her, my Dad and sister thought that was it for her.
I was the only one who said that she could beat it, and she did!
You only seem to hear the bad news stories about cancer but their are plenty of good news stories too.
Keep positive and support all of your family through this as well as making sure your OK yourself.
03-06-2009, 08:43 PM
all the best mate, gutted for you.
MiKeY B 20
03-06-2009, 09:59 PM
Same here.. Very sorry to hear this, i hope everything is well after the op.. Be strong for you mum.
04-06-2009, 10:40 AM
I would like to thank everyone that posted here it means a lot. I am a believer in thinking positively and have been filtering this through to my Mum. In my family it is my Mum my younger brother and me. I have to be strong for them I know that.
04-06-2009, 11:14 AM
I don't know what your religious views are but there is a good book called 'when bad things happen to good people' written by Harold Kushner that is the textbook for people experiencing difficult times and was very helpful to me, as I think for millions of other people. It's written by a rabbi but lots of christian organisations use it.
Other than that it is important that you support your mother as much as possible and deal with it in whatever way you feel will enable you to best cope.
I wish you the best and pm me if you need anything.
04-06-2009, 11:18 AM
Sorry to hear that mate....
Sounds like you're the man of the house.... Therefore like you already said, you will need to be strong for your Mum and brother... You will be the one who has to provide the strength and support for your family during this difficult time...
No doubt you and your brother will give your Mum all the love, support and strength she needs to beat it, and the truth of the matter is that cancer CAN, and in many cases, IS beaten. I would like to send you my prayers - cancer is a terrible illness but hopefully your Mum can beat it.
Really gutted for you, I hope she and you all get through this. My Mum and my Mother in Law both survived cancer, it's possible to pull through ,they just really need your support. My mother in law had chemo and it did really make her weak and she lost her appetite, she was in her early 70s when she had it. She just tried eating as healthily as possible but at the same time tried to eat what she fancied too just to try and keep her strength up.
Best wishes x
04-06-2009, 12:52 PM
all the best too your mum mate
cancer is a winnable battle....trust me i know
04-06-2009, 11:02 PM
I hope your mother makes a full recovery.
Be strong pal.
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