lads please give me advice being a dad

[JohnyBoy]

allright lads im a dad now an its hard baluncing training an being a dad with my hard upbringing im struggling dont want my son to have all the rucks i had growing up need some help cheers lads

[Ross]

1. Stop being so cunty

Repeat

[JohnyBoy]

haha ross son thats not very nice i want serious discossion here like how to change nappys i keep getting it wrong an my misses is allways out with her mates so i have no help

[Evzy]

Trest people with respect including your child, don't ever lose patience and scream at them - they are children and deserve to be treated with patience and brought up gently. I have a 3 year old daughter, never raise my voice to her, always talk to her properly and don't use a childish voice, never let her watch telletubby nonsense that isn't educational and doesnt use proper language, she is the happiest cutest girl I know, never a pain, speaks very very well for her age and doesn't act up - I do believe its because we have brought her up in a chilled out manner - I hate parents screaming at their kids - what does that teach the child other than screaming is acceptable - it isn't.

Post above has good points as well though that should be taken into account.

[ShaolinSubz02]

stop drinking swearing fighting outside the ring and generally being annoying in and around the Hammersmith area. Stop spitting, eating kebabs, peeing in the street, running from the cops and stop making racist remarks to anyone non edl. It is you isnt it? The dude I always see outside poundland? :D

[JohnyBoy]

stop drinking swearing fighting outside the ring and generally being annoying in and around the Hammersmith area. Stop spitting, eating kebabs, peeing in the street, running from the cops and stop making racist remarks to anyone non edl. It is you isnt it? The dude I always see outside poundland? :D

haha not me shaolin son sounds like the old me but didnt go near poundland mate

[Evzy]

Changing nappies - ask ya missus to show you how she does it - simple. Don't panic, buy some childcare books and take the time to actually read them, be surprised at what you can learn that you didn't realise or know. Don't feed your child junk food either, kids who crave chocolate only do so because they are stuffed full of it, mine loves fruit and veggies, she has chocolate but its not a priority for her as we don't give her tonnes of it - after all, it has no real nutrional value so I don't think its a treat as such to give your kid something thats bad for them often, now and then is cool but not every day.

[JohnyBoy]

Trest people with respect including your child, don't ever lose patience and scream at them - they are children and deserve to be treated with patience and brought up gently. I have a 3 year old daughter, never raise my voice to her, always talk to her properly and don't use a childish voice, never let her watch telletubby nonsense that isn't educational and doesnt use proper language, she is the happiest cutest girl I know, never a pain, speaks very very well for her age and doesn't act up - I do believe its because we have brought her up in a chilled out manner - I hate parents screaming at their kids - what does that teach the child other than screaming is acceptable - it isn't.

Post above has good points as well though that should be taken into account.

thanks evzy son good advice mate, when can i show him boxing dvds, maybe when hes 2 or 3? long time away hes only couple weeks old. i never shout at my boy carmel would kill me an shouting is a mugs game anyway. cheers son

[JohnyBoy]

Changing nappies - ask ya missus to show you how she does it - simple. Don't panic, buy some childcare books and take the time to actually read them, be surprised at what you can learn that you didn't realise or know. Don't feed your child junk food either, kids who crave chocolate only do so because they are stuffed full of it, mine loves fruit and veggies, she has chocolate but its not a priority for her as we don't give her tonnes of it - after all, it has no real nutrional value so I don't think its a treat as such to give your kid something thats bad for them often, now and then is cool but not every day.

yeh youre right son i dont give him junk i want him to be champ so i blend him healthy foods

[ShaolinSubz02]

haha not me shaolin son sounds like the old me but didnt go near poundland mate

Hahaha! Good! Yeah mate, best thing to remember is this is your chance to bring up a kid to be respectful, loving, strong and creative - its a chance for you to change also - all that negative stuff from the pops can be overcome - if you had a hard life then this might be the chance you need as much as your son. Show him new things and experience them together. And keep him interested in sport, academics and current affairs. Show him the world outside his immediate surroundings and give him inspiration to aspire to be whatever he wants to be. There you go - cheesy I know but it does work and there are plenty of help for new fathers online and elsewhere - big oppotinty to raise a future leader mate - seize it by making yourself the best you can be. Oh and training will be a juggling act if you are working as well - but thats all good - life is not meant to be easy and the example you set will stay with your kin

[ShaolinSubz02]

Oh - and definitely cook, cooking good food and healthy fresh ingredients will give him a head start over almost all kids growing up in London eating battered chicken and chips - that example is very underrated

[JohnyBoy]

cheers son, i want him to be boxin or mma champ so he will train twice a day when he starts walking normaly

[ShaolinSubz02]

cheers son, i want him to be boxin or mma champ so he will train twice a day when he starts walking normaly

that can be good but no need to push - my 8 year old does judo Bjj and Muay Thai but I dont push him - if he decided to commit at age 16 he could be a champ at 17 - whatever he wants to do he does as long as he does his homework and treats people with respect. One thing I dislike is fathers who bring their kids up to be hard arses without first teaching them right from wrong

[ShaolinSubz02]

Oh - and learn the naughty corner routine - that can solve all kinds of issues in the future!

[JohnyBoy]

i wont push him son but seing his dad winning all these belts with ko's will make him want to be like me mate, whats the naughty corner where you make him go an get a beating?

[JohnyBoy]

not proper beating like smack on the arse son

[Evzy]

See I won't let my girl watch anything like Ben10 type stuff that shows any form of cartoon fighting, in no rush to show her that kind of thing just yet, want her to have a fighting free few years, will show her self defense stuff when she is a bit older but want her to understand manners and good behaviour before I introduce that kind of thing. I just think let kids be kids and don't push them to grow up / toughen up too soon, see some right little gits in the playgrounds pushing and shoving each other and to me - thats not good behaviour for a small child, would rather see them playing nicely with respect and sharing toys etc.

oh and naughty step - bottom stair for time outs if they do play up, no need to hit them, just plonk em on the step and tell em to sit and think about why they are sat there, works a treat for most parents - I am lucky enough not to have even needed it yet as she is a gem, but she has stinky feet, or so she tells me!

[starwar1]

Spend time with your child. I have 2 children and work full time and also train 4 times a week. I ensure that the times i am at home i spend quality time with them (i.e not watching a film together). But we play toys, draw, read and this past weekend i have been teaching my 3 year old girl how to cook. I am always careful what i say and do around my children as they will copy how i act and what i do. Your time is the greatest thing you can give to your child and time goes so fast it won't belong before you are the one that wants to spend time with them but they are too busy with their mates. And every day tell them how much you love them and show them it too. I could not imagine my life without my children. Enjoy them they are the greatest gift you will ever receive.

[JohnyBoy]

See I won't let my girl watch anything like Ben10 type stuff that shows any form of cartoon fighting, in no rush to show her that kind of thing just yet, want her to have a fighting free few years, will show her self defense stuff when she is a bit older but want her to understand manners and good behaviour before I introduce that kind of thing. I just think let kids be kids and don't push them to grow up / toughen up too soon, see some right little gits in the playgrounds pushing and shoving each other and to me - thats not good behaviour for a small child, would rather see them playing nicely with respect and sharing toys etc.

oh and naughty step - bottom stair for time outs if they do play up, no need to hit them, just plonk em on the step and tell em to sit and think about why they are sat there, works a treat for most parents - I am lucky enough not to have even needed it yet as she is a gem, but she has stinky feet, or so she tells me!

cheers son think il wait til hes 3-4 till i show him mike tyson dvds an my fights

[JohnyBoy]

Spend time with your child. I have 2 children and work full time and also train 4 times a week. I ensure that the times i am at home i spend quality time with them (i.e not watching a film together). But we play toys, draw, read and this past weekend i have been teaching my 3 year old girl how to cook. I am always careful what i say and do around my children as they will copy how i act and what i do. Your time is the greatest thing you can give to your child and time goes so fast it won't belong before you are the one that wants to spend time with them but they are too busy with their mates. And every day tell them how much you love them and show them it too. I could not imagine my life without my children. Enjoy them they are the greatest gift you will ever receive.

top lad cheers, i spend time with him he cant walk yet but tryna get him to do punches while hes crawleng so when he can walk his bombs will be natural

[Evzy]

top lad cheers, i spend time with him he cant walk yet but tryna get him to do punches while hes crawleng so when he can walk his bombs will be natural

You may in effect cause him to have sloppy technique by teaching him to throw from his knee's n shins, in fact you could be one of those dads who teaches them too early and ends up with a son who fights and throws pitter patter punches instead of bombs....ask yourself, do you really want that.

[JohnyBoy]

evzy son noone with my jeans throws light punches we all throw bombs that cause ko's

[Gazza]

Not trying to ruin the moment but JohnyBoy can i see your so called "fights, with all these Ko's" ;)

[JohnyBoy]

allright gasgoyne gazza son, well ive got so many street fight ko's online like a highlight real of shockeng ko's but i dont show them anymore tryna be a role model now son ive got people looking to me wanting to box like me so i cant spread negetive things son. but when i get my belts they will all be online an everyone will see them mate.

[Luke]

Congrats mate. I'm sure your kid will grow up to be a great fighter (or internet troll), if internets even about in the next 15-20 years.

[JohnyBoy]

cheers luke son an if you wanna see my skills then why didnt you accrpt my spar i was gonna help you mate?

[starwar1]

All so mate never swear in front of your boy you muggy cunt